The girl that wrote bout sex in her blog

The 20 year old Singapore’s Poly girl known as Shila, is the owner of the now deleted blog “Shila’s Voice – Breaking the Silence”.

The citizen journalism website, STOMP, recently published an article from a STOMPer revealing some of the stuff which she probably shouldn't have written about on her blog

In an email to STOMP on 30 Nov 09, the STOMPer AK said, “I came across this blog, apparently belonging to a 20-year-old Singaporean girl from a polytechnic, who openly writes about her active casual sex life, even talking about having a foursome with her partner and another couple… Find it ironic that she writes in her blog about how she knows she has disappointed her parents, yet she posted her family photos in there, for all to see.”

Many attempts by local netizens to uncover her blog were unsuccessful as it appeared that she posted those articles more than one year ago, and had recently deleted her blog when she got STOMPed. The deleted blog’s original URL is: http://shila-lov3rgal.blogspot.com/

Maid looking for a job

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UK Couple caught by Dubai police on beach in March.

A COUPLE arrested in Dubai for allegedly having sex on a beach will face the harshest sentence after DNA tests proved they had 'full sex', media reports say. British couple Michelle Palmer, 30, and Vince Acors, 34, will stand trial on August 21 and could face up to six years behind bars after
Dubai police charged the two British tourists with having sex in public, illicit sex and being drunk in public. Both have denied the charges but reports in The Sun newspaper said DNA tests confirmed they had full sex and that Mr Acors had admitted it. It was also reported that the couple had a hasty civil marriage ceremony to reduce the sentence.
They had met hours earlier at a champagne brunch at Le Meridien Hotel, where Ms Palmer allegedly got extremely drunk before setting off for a walk along the shore with her newfound companion. A police officer later allegedly spotted the pair having sex on the sand and let them off with a caution. But the pair ignored the warning and they were arrested when the officer returned.

Making out in PUBLIC in Singapore??!!

Read this in STOMP earlier today. There are people who actually will make out in daylight and in SINGAPORE and in PUBLIC. What a damn suprise

10 Rules for One Night Stand

"I’m always looking for meaningful one-night stands.". If you are looking for one-night stands that are fun and not gonna lead to a relationship,here are the rules you must follow!

1. ALWAYS have Condoms with you:You will feel kinda stupid, huh? All that time to convince her, and now….NOTHING! Don’t even think about sleeping with the person without protection. You don’t want to RISK your life for a few hours (if you’re lucky) of pleasure!

2. Do NOT give them your phone number:
The last think you need is a stalker on your back! You need to be fast and sneaky! The less you know about this person (and the less they know about you!) the better one night stand you will make.

3. They MUST be a stranger:
Well don’t mess with your friends! It will become more complicated in case you or the other one starts to have feelings.

4. Do NOT be drunk:
You don’t have to care if he or she is drunk, but you don’t have to be! Have you ever seen how an ugly face transforms into a beautiful one with a fifth of vodka?

5. Do NOT go to your place:
Are you insane? All that time you’ve been trying to hide by not giving your phone number, and you bring your flirt to your place? Wrong! A nice hotel will do the trick, if you like it outdoors, also not a problem. Just don’t go to some place familiar! There is a chance that you will never get rid of them afterwards.

6. Do NOT use your car:
A car is like a symbol! He or she will never forget it! You don’t want every time you’re parked outside a restaurant with someone else to see that person again running towards you! You are too old to be hiding under tables!

7. Do NOT eat anything weird before:
You want to spend some time with that person; not with the porcelain altar! So be careful of your choices. A good salad (without onions or garlic) will do great for that day. Remember: flatulence is NOT a turn-on.

8. Do NOT fall asleep:
You may awake and see an ugly face staring at you. Or even worst, a table full of breakfast ready for both of you to enjoy… Your identity will be exposed, since you were sleeping like a pig and he or she was searching through your stuff! You will also realize that this one night stand might have been a mistake, after all… so be sneaky: do your ninja moves, try to leave the place without anyone noticing.

9. Do NOT leave any tracks:
Be sure that you won’t leave anything behind when you leave! A T-shirt, a lighter, a pair of gloves, even your used protection will be enough for the other person to search the entire world to find you! Anything you will forget might be used against you - learn from all those CSI episodes you’ve spent so much time on!

10. Do NOT kiss them when you leave:
In case that you failed to do something of the above, this would be one huge mistake! That would mean something more than a simple One Night Stand!

So people enjoy your single status, follow the rules, have fun and be happy!

Tips for Female to reach Orgasm

I have wrote on ways for man to control their orgasm or to 'prolong' their sex activities. Now it's information for woman on how they can reach orgasm. Guys, you might want to learn this too and teach ur partners. I guess no guys will want themselves reaching the 'climax' first before their partners as they perceived that the partners will look down at them. Enjoy reading

1. Work on your pelvic floor muscles
Prepare for multitudes of earth-shattering orgasms by whipping your PC muscles into shape. To know what and where they are, next time you're on the loo, try stopping yourself peeing mid-flow. The muscles you clench up to stop yourself urinating are the PC muscles. The best bit about getting them fit and healthy is that you don't need to don footless tights and haul yourself to the gym – you can exercise them by clenching and unclenching them several times during a day. Spend a couple of weeks 'working out' and you'll find yourself having more, and better, orgasms

2. Relax
It sounds obvious, but you're unlikely to have a great orgasm if you're tense or stressed out. Light candles, have a bath, or go for a tension-busting walk and your chances of reaching orgasm are instantly increased. Just remember to avoid alcohol, which can numb the nerve endings in your vagina and make orgasm more difficult

3. Give your man a helping hand
Give yourself an orgasm head start by masturbating before you have sex. Some women find their pubic mound, nipples or inner thigh particularly sensitive... explore your own body and work out what works for you. Stroke, rub and caress yourself for a few minutes before your partner does and prepare for the Big O!

4. Get on top
An oldie but a goodie! Straddling your man means that you can take control of how fast, slow, or deep you want it, and watching him watch you can be a real turn-on as well. Position yourself on top of him and wiggle around a little so that your clitoris is in direct contact with his body, and try rotating your hips in slow circles to achieve an amazing orgasm

5. Have sex during your period
If you feel the yuck-factor is too high on this one, wait until your menstrual flow is at its lowest – towards the end of your period – to minimise the 'I've been shot where it hurts' look for your bloke. All the abdominal muscles and nerve endings are at their most sensitive during your period, which can make for some pretty explosive orgasms. And as a bonus, sex is a sure-fire painkiller if you're prone to nasty cramps

6. Try a variation on the doggy position
If he's especially well-endowed, try lying face down on a firm surface and have him enter you from behind. If you raise your hips a fraction and slip either yours, or his hand in underneath your body, you (or he) can stimulate your clitoris at the same time. This variation on doggy-style combines pressure from the front and the back and it feels pretty damn good!

7. Use lubricant
Sex can sometimes be less comfortable or enjoyable when your vagina is dry. This can happen at the beginning or end of your cycle, or if you've just removed a tampon to have sex. However, a touch of dryness can be easily remedied with one of the many lubrication products available on the market. Lube is also a great orgasm aid – a drop or two applied to the vaginal entrance will make sex more sensual for both or you, and with a bit of luck, more orgasmic

8. Try using a vibrator
Use a vibrator either on your own or with your partner – to achieve orgasm. Have your bloke sit on his knees (so that he can balance) and penetrate you while simultaneously stimulating your clitoris with a vibrator. It feels amazing...

9. Indulge in some oral pleasure
Most men don't need any encouragement to head downstairs - oral sex can be just as pleasurable for the man performing it as it is for the women receiving it. Encourage your bloke to gently lick, suck or nibble on your clitoris – whatever feels great – and then ask him to insert one or two fingers into your vagina so that he can stroke the very sensitive inner wall (where the g-spot is often located). Some women also find that having their perineum licked or a short-nailed finger inserted into their anus results in great orgasms

10. Invest in some adult entertainment
Ask a female staff member at your closest sex store to recommend a film that is especially erotic for women, and try watching it with your partner. You'll soon stop feeling freaked out at the sight of other people getting it on, and start encouraging your bloke to replicate some of the moves you're seeing on screen. Orgasms... here we come!

11. The modified missionary position
You don't need any fancy equipment for this orgasm booster... Lie on your back and put your legs over your partner's shoulders. Lifting your legs like this allows for easier clitoral contact and is also a goodie for stimulation of the g-spot. This position is practically orgasm-guaranteed

12. Stop worrying!
Many women fear that they are taking too long to orgasm or that their blokes get bored of the repetitive motions that are sometimes required for a woman to come. The more you fret, the more likely you are to fake... and that's not good for anybody. Enjoy all the sensations of sex and don't be concerned if you don't always orgasm – sex can be just as pleasurable for both parties without orgasms

10 Tops Sex Myths

You would have heard a sex myth at one point of time or other. It could have been an old wives’ tale or something off the net, from a dumb friend and believe it or not, for some, from a parent who gave you a twisted version of the ‘birds and bees.’ Some myths are just plain mind boggling and funny while some can result in some very serious consequences. I bring you the top ten sex myths that in my opinion need to be busted wide open.

You can’t get pregnant during sex if the guy practises the ‘withdrawal’ (coitus interruptus) method
Nah ah! There is totally a chance that you can. When a guy is aroused or engaging in any sexual activity, pre-ejaculatory fluid (pre-come) is released constantly. Although, not nearly as much as the amount released during ejaculation, this fluid contains- sperm! His swimmers are still very much effective. Unless, you are married and planning a pregnancy, I suggest you don’t take chances.

You can't get STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) or STIs (sexually transmitted infections) from giving or receiving oral sex.
This is one of the most dangerous myths in existence. Any exposure to genitalia or body fluids puts you at risk in catching an STD. There are many STDs that can be transmitted through oral sex, including genital herpes, genital warts (HPV), Gonorrhoea, hepatitis A, hepatitis B, Chlamydia, Canchroids, syphilis, internal parasite (Amebiasis), and rarely, but possibly HIV. You are safe, if both of you are in a monogamous physical relationship and do not share objects that come into contact with bodily fluids with others.

You can’t get pregnant, if you douche right after sex.
Firstly, it is not advisable to douche under any circumstances- it cleans out the vaginal fluids that protect against bacteria and germs. As for doing it after sex, it will just push the sperm further up into the cervix. Besides, by the time you get to the bathroom, millions of those tiny fellas would have made it in.

Men want sex more than women
Riiiiight…..Oh come on! This is more the fault of our mental perception than the truth. Sure, men of course, do want sex- but so do women. It is not always the men who propose sex; women too, do show their need for some action. For example, waiting in sexy little, barely there thingies, when their husbands return from work or sending raunchy messages when their partners are away. It is just that women, use more subtle and indirect ways to show that they want it.

Men think about sex every 7 seconds
If so, the world will be filled with perpetually horny men. No job will get done and the world will be one chaotic globe of explosive testosterone. Men do think about sex, a lot, but every seven seconds? Give them more credit; they say a woman’s mind is best left unexplored but so is a guy’s. They do have a lot on their mind too- work, money, emotions, family and so much more. It is said guys think with their heads (penises) but they can be pretty level headed too.

Women hate porn and dirty sex
That’s some bull****! We do think porn is lame, disrespectful, tasteless and very fake. But watching just 15 minutes of ‘Girls Gone Wild’ can get most women hot and heavy. Many girly sleepovers may involve a dirty porno movie but women just never want the guys to know. We may carry the same goods but show us a naked female form and we will still ogle. As for dirty sex, not all women want sweet, loving and cuddly sex. Raunchy, dirty and naughty sex brings out the most innate of fantasies for many.

You shouldn’t have sex when having your period
On the contrary, many women feel more turned on during that time of the month. Hormones are all over the place, so many just want to have sex. Probably, the only downside to it is the hygiene factor- there is a lot of bacteria involved. I personally find it effective having sex that time of the month; there is an increase in period flow which clears the toxins and decreases water retention. Ultimately, it really boils down to the comfort level of both parties.

Men will sleep with anyone and anything that has boobs and an ass
This was probably made up by a scorned and jilted feminist and is a very stereotypical statement. There are tons of men, who look at their partners only, as sex objects but at every other woman just as human beings co-existing with us.

Men who cheat on their partners don’t love them
This one’s tricky. Men can differentiate love from sex; an inborn ability that unfortunately, women rarely have. They can sleep with another woman but will still be very much in love with their wives and girlfriends. It just means that they have no respect for their partners or the commitment made and really reflects on their morals. Of course, this is situational- many lose love for their women so they cheat.

Having sex when pregnant will harm the baby
Nope. Not true. This is an old wives’ tale. It is really all about the comfort level. Pregnant women have raging and unpredictable hormones. Many do want to have sex. It is just the bulging tummy that makes you feel un-sexy and getting into a comfortable position poses a challenge. Doctors do advise some pregnant women to have sex in the third trimester as it will lead to a comfortable child birth and if you are past your due date, one of the options doctors do give is sex to induce labour. Of course, no one knows better than your gynaecologist and it is always good to get a medical opinion.

Kegel (Part 2)

What can I expect from exercises for men? Do they work?
Yes they do. You will experience such benefits if you do Kegels on a regular basis:
-Stronger pelvic muscles
-Increase the bloodflow to the genital area, and so support sexual arousal mechanisms
-Reduced "leaking" of urine and urinary incontinence (if you have any)
-Increased pleasure with your sexual activity
-Increased ability to have erections (longer and harder)

How difficult are Kegel exercises for men?
This exercises are
Fast - just five to eight minutes twice a day
This exercises are convenient. Do them while lying down, sitting, standing, watching TV or reading the newspaper. Atually I did them on the way to my work and back
Kegel exercises for men are completely invisible to others. Nobody even can tell if you actualy are doing exercises now.
Risk-free - in most bad case you will just work with a wrong muscle
Simple - "flex" the pelvic muscle like holding back from or stopping urination. Hold the muscle for about 3 to 5 seconds, relax for about 3 seconds, then repeat.
Painless! (You just can notice some unusual feelings at first but its only if you "overwork").
Free - you even need no equipment!

How do I find my PC muscles?
Go to the bathroom
In the middle of your stream of urine, stop and start the stream several times. PC muscles are the muscles you just used. Note, that at first you may also squeeze your anal muscles. As you become experienced, try to separate out different muscle groups that you are able to exercise by squeezing.
Am I ready to do Kegel exercises for men?
When you have identified your PC muscles, you are ready to start doing Kegel exercises for men. If you do too many exercises before you are ready (all like in gym), you might experience more or less pronounced muscle fatigue and/or soreness. So I do not recommend you to start out at the maximum number of exercises.
How do I do Kegel exercises for men?
To do the long Kegel exercises for men:
Squeeze your PC muscles shut as tightly as you can and hold them so for as long as you can. Holding them for more than 10 seconds is not better.
Then relax your muscles completely for 10 seconds. Make sure you relax them really for 10 seconds. And never less.
Repeat. Try to do as many repeatings as you can (up to 15).
Relax for a while. Congratulations, you have just done the long Kegel exercise.
After this you should then perform the short exercise.
To do the short Kegel exercises for men:
Squeeze and hold for one second, then relax completely for one second.
Repeat for a total of five times.
Relax completely for ten seconds.
Repeat the all above for 3 or 4 times.

I can't hold them even for two seconds!
When you start to do Kegels at first you may find that you can't even squeeze for a second or two. Guys, don't worry. This is typical. You can't keep it tight because the muscles just don't strength enough. Stop if you just can't squeeze them tight and your muscles have become fatigued. It's enough for that session. With an everyday practice, your muscles will become stronger and stronger. After a few weeks or months, you will be able to squeeze this PC muscles really tight for a full ten seconds doing the long exercises.
Some tips?
Empty your bladder before starting the exercises.
Don't do Kegels while urinating. This may eventually lead to some voiding difficulties.
Keep your thigh and abdominal muscles relaxed.
Try to get the maximum tightening with each muscle contraction.
Do not forget to breathe holding the muscles contracted.
It is better to do fewer cycles, each with good form and tight control, than to do more cycles with poor form and weak control
Good idea to contract the muscles while you are in different positions: sitting, standing, lying.
How often should I do Kegel exercises for men?
Try to have regular exercise sessions twice a day, but don't worry if you miss a session from time to time. I did Kegel exercises twice a day - in the way to my work and back. You will start to see results in 2-3 month. Individual results may varray.

Am I doing the exercises correctly?
You are NOT doing the exercises correctly if
If you are holding your breath. (If you can talk normally and comfortably, then you are probably doing the exercises correctly.)
Squeezing any other muscles, than the pelvic floor. These muscles are the only muscles that should be squeezed during the Kegel exercises. If you find yourself squeezing/stretching any other - hips, thighs, the lower abdomen, or elsewhere - stop and correct yourself. You will not benefit from such exercises.
How can I remember to do my Kegel exercises regularly?
Good idea to make Kegel exercises a Habit (did you read Stephen Covey?) The following tips may help you remember to do your Kegel exercises:
Schedule your exercises at the same time every day. It can be your favorite regular TV show, while you do the dishes, when you wake up in the morning, after lunch or just before you go to bed.
Reward yourself for each day that you do PC exercises twice a day. You could put a nice gold star on your calendar:)
It is normal if you forget to do your exercises for a few days. It's common to have a few slips when trying to make any new change. Just get back to your exercises and don't get discouraged!

Want to perform longer on bed?

This exercises (Kegel or Kegal) is to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles (they support your urethra, rectum, bladder and uterus). First they were created for women but now there are also Kegel exercises for men which can help you improve self-control during sex.

The main thing that the same pelvic muscles are also involved in the ejaculation process. The contraction of the pelvic muscle (remember pubococcygeus) forces the ejaculate or seminal fluid from your prostate gland. Yes, these exercises were designed for women, but the same exercises can help men to gain control over the premature ejaculation.

Men spend so much time at the gym working on their body muscles, but they often ignore their pubococcygeus. In fact, most of us don't even know about the pubococcygeus, though its role during male orgasm is hard to ignore. The pubococcygeus (it is also often called the PC muscle) can be strengthened to improve sex - power, length, and can be exercised without any equipment. They can be done at almost anytime and in any place. Nobody will even see!
It may take 2 to 4 month before you see results. I did my Kegel exercises for men in a combination with Climinax (or better to say was taking Climinax and doing Kegels, because the main effect was from pills) so my girlfiend noticed great prolongation of our sex on the second week. If you suffer from premature ejaculation you can take pills without Kegels with great results.

What can I expect from exercises for men? Do they work?

Yes they do. You will experience such benefits if you do Kegels on a regular basis:
Stronger pelvic muscles
Increase the bloodflow to the genital area, and so support sexual arousal mechanisms
Reduced "leaking" of urine and urinary incontinence (if you have any)
Increased pleasure with your sexual activity
Increased ability to have erections (longer and harder)

I will share more on this Kegel exercise on my next post

About your cock!!

10. There are two types of penises. A GROWER expands and lengthens when erect. A SHOWER appears big most of the time, but doesn't get much bigger when erect.

9. An international Men's Health survey reports that 79 percent of men have growers, 21 percent have showers.

8. You can break a PenisYes it's true... a penis may not have a bone but you can still break it. It's called penile fracture. Happens from wanking too hard or when a woman (or perphaps man... or animal) moves too violently while on top of him.

7. Largest penis in the animal kingdom: 11 feet (blue whale)I'd like to see you beat that! (Pun intended)

6. Average speed of ejaculation: 28 miles per hour

5. Smoking can decrease the size of your erection by up to 1 cm! Somking limits the bloodflow to the penis... (So if the cancer ain't stoping you... maybe this will!)

4. Largest recorded natural male penis is 13 inches.

3. 75% of men have their penis hanging to the left in their pants.

2. One in every 400 men is flexible enough to suck his own penis.

1. All men at some point in their life have attempted to suck their own penis. But only about 1 in every 400 will admit to having tried it.**Random facts may or may not be actual facts with scientific backing :)

Sexual Climax?

According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!

A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.

6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…

Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.

She’s thinking too much!
Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).

She’s full of… insecurities.
Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?
If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as "I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.", or "I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself."
ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!

She really doesn’t know her own body.
There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?
The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps...http://www.TheFemaleOrgasmRevealed.com

You are not paying attention!
True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close! To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means "You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!"; while nails on your skin or arm mean "enough of that!". You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts.